In general, choosing a vacation destination can be quite a hassle. If you have specific vacation days, flight and hotel information, not mentioning any kind of saving factor on vacation sites, then one reason why you hear the adage, “I need a vacation from my vacation.” Nowadays, there is one more special element in these subjects that is probably the most sensitive — mixed family.
The consequences of a divorce and the family you know can be traumatic enough for the family to deal with, but it may be more difficult for your parents to be part of someone else’s family because they have children of their own. The common denominator & hijinks sitcom gold, just the idea of someone being a member of a new nuclear family is not an easy task.
So, how do you want everyone to go on vacation? There are many feelings to consider. While ‘mom and dad’ want to do something fun, exciting and a bit romantic, it may not be great for kids. What about holiday vacation dates from previous family units? These can be things that will add to the children’s sense of normalcy. New siblings may also have difficulty spending time with each other and may be annoyed with each other.
For these reasons, and for many others, family counselors agree that it is important to plan to easily engage children on any vacation. Everyone wants to see what the weekend is out. Looks great in any activities? Do they want to try that kind of food? Give the kids some ownership of the trip and let them know what’s important to them. At the same time, though, it is important to maintain a sense of accountability with this ownership. You want kids to feel comfortable with all these changes but you don’t want them to run the show.
One final key item that is absolutely necessary is the need to establish a new date. Everyone in your new mixed family still remembers life as before. While it is still important to maintain a sense of stability through those old ways, it is important to create new memories and traditions with new families. Again, give the kids a little sneak peek at what they think will be a neat idea. Something like “Silly Selfie Sunday Seafood” can break the ice and make you realize that the new key isn’t such a bad thing.
For mixed families, vacation destinations hold an idea of the unknown and perhaps the unwanted. However with the right approach your new family can find the right way to open their hearts to new possibilities.